2008年12月24日星期三

27個貼士:給愛情保鮮

1. Start each day with a kiss--I think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and nice.用一個吻迎接新的一天。接吻如此簡單,卻能令人身心愉悅。
2. Date once a week--May not as often as once a week, let's say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don't have to go somewhere fancy to have it, you get the idea, right?一周約會一次。也不必非得一周一次,也可以兩周一次。而且約會的地點可以在家中,不必非去什麽特別的地方。你是不是明白了?有心就好。
3. Accept differences--No one is perfect. However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship, hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one another.接受彼此的不同,因為人無完人。適度的爭論可以增進雙方的關系,但重要的是要在爭論中懂得妥協。
4. Be polite--Please, thank you, you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your home.多用禮貌用語。請、謝謝、不客氣這些話不只要說給陌生人聽,更要說給你的伴侶和家人聽。在家裏要記得多用這些客氣話。
5. Be gentle--a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse, being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough.溫柔一些——若想關系親密,溫柔是至關重要的。
6. Give gifts--nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a while.給對方送禮物——偶爾送些甜蜜小禮物,就能令對方感激不盡。
7. Touch--intimacy between married people is very important and touching is a means of communication that reflects closeness, connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark alive.撫觸——情侶間的撫觸非常重要,它可以增進情感,傳達愛意。它是情感交流的一種方式,它可以讓愛的火花常燃不熄。
8. Talk about dreams--dreams of the future that is; if you don't share your dreams with your spouse; then who?談論夢想——說說對未來的憧憬。試想,若不和伴侶分享你的夢想,那麽還能同誰講呢?
9. Select a song that can be "our song" —— this sounds like a cliché, but it can be nice, don't you think?選一首歌作為“你倆的歌”——聽起來有點老套,但是不是很美妙?
10. Laugh together--laughter is medicine. When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every day.一起開懷大笑——笑是良藥。當你倆一起開懷的時候,你們的關系也會伴隨著笑聲一天天地親近和堅固起來。
11. Send a card for no reason--another cliché? Maybe, but everyone likes to receive a nice "I love you" or "I miss you" notes every once in a while.沒什麽緣由地送張卡片——又很老套嗎?不過誰不喜歡時不時地收到些“我愛你”,“我想你”之類的卡片呢?
12. Listen--this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.聆聽——這非常重要,但註意聆聽的時候你應該全情投入並參與其中,而不僅僅只是聽到了對方說的話。
13. Encourage--positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!鼓勵——彼此支持是非常重要的。向對方尋求支持並慷慨地給予對方支持!
14. Do it his or her way--sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.按照對方喜歡的方式行事——有時候,你可以按照對方喜歡的方式行事,並以此來傳達你對伴侶的愛戀和尊重。
15. Know his or her needs--what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!知道對方的需求——如果不知道另一半的需要,那還算什麽好伴侶?這一點是首先需要留心的。
16. Compliment twice a day--everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due.每天互相恭維兩次——人人都愛聽恭維話,所以在適當的時候說些好話。
17. Call during the day--but don't over do it and be obsessed with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying "how are you doing?"打通電話——不要總是給對方打電話。給他們一些空間的同時,打個簡短的問候電話,讓他們了解你的惦念。
18. Cuddle--yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep feelings.擁抱——是的,親昵的行為可以傳達愛意,增進情感。
19. Show respect--showing respect is more important than showing love.尊重對方——顯示你的尊重比表達愛意更加重要。
20. Welcome the other person home--show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them!歡迎另一半回家——熱情地歡迎你的伴侶回家。讓他們感受到你的期盼和你的快樂。
21. Celebrate birthdays in a big way--this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal occasions.隆重慶生——並不是說你要為對方的生日大操大辦,而是說你要傳遞出你很重視這個特別日子的信息。
22. Forgive--from the heart and not only in words.寬恕——自心底而不是嘴上說聲原諒。
23. Set up a romantic getaway--this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that!策劃一次浪漫出遊——時不時搞一次,其樂無窮,完全沒有副作用!
24. Respond quickly to the other person's request--show them that you are doing this because you care for them the most.快速響應對方的需求——這樣做就是為了顯示你有多麽在意對方。
25. Treat each others' friends and relatives with courtesy--even if you don't like their family and/or friends, you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that much.善待對方的朋友和親屬——即便你不喜歡伴侶的朋友和親屬,為了你的伴侶,你也要善待他們。
26. Admit when wrong--don't be too arrogant to say it.有錯的時候認錯——不要自負到拒絕認錯。
27. End the day with a hug--show closeness and again; intimacy.用擁抱結束一天的生活——再次用親昵的行為表達親密的關系

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